Brian snapped these photos one day over the holidays. It’s such a sweet moment between two brothers and I love the natural light coming in the window.
Oliver is becoming much more compassionate toward his little brother lately. Sometimes it’s involving Emery in his play or stopping to give him a hug or wanting him to chase him around the kitchen island (“Come get me!”) or sliding over on the chair and saying, “Come on em-wee… there’s woom for you too!”.
Don’t get me wrong… he is still intentionally pushy when he is in a mood and sometimes nastily grabs toys from Emery but for a while that was his default. And it was rough – rough to see Emery treated so poorly, rough to see Oliver not able to manage his emotions, and rough to constantly monitor and discipline the bad behavior (not to mention wonder if you’re handling it the best way). It was rough and exhausting and pull-your-hair-out frustrating some days. But it is obviously just a phase of the growing relationship with his brother and figuring out what it is supposed to be, where he fits, and what is expected of him.
I think we’re seeing a light at the end of that particular tunnel and it’s encouraging. That’s not to say I expect my days as a referee are coming to an end but it is heart warming to see these moments happening more and more.