I have said it every year so I’m going to skip the I-can’t-believe-it’s-been-four-years sentiments (even though I don’t and never will believe how fast time seems to fly when you’re measuring it by your milestones).
You (mostly) skipped the terrible twos and went instead for the terrible threes, which, in some ways, made the last year the hardest of all. You challenge me in ways that I never expected but also manage to amaze me greatly in some way every day. I constantly have doubts, as every mother does, that I am teaching you the right things and steering you in the right direction and then you do something so incredibly sweet and caring that I feel I must be doing something right. I hope every day that you will become a caring and strong little boy in spite of or because of our relationship, whatever the case may be. We’re learning together it seems.
As you turn four, you are still very strong-willed and passionate and know exactly what you want, which makes for some tempered moments . But I also see you becoming more thoughtful, more intelligent, and even more patient (sometimes).
Here are some more things about you as you turn four:
- You can be so focused when you are building or drawing or playing a game.
- You are really sensitive – I get hugs and kisses out of the blue and in moments when I’m pretty sure you are genuinely loving me for doing something nice for you. Mommy will never complain about kisses, whatever the motive!
- You can easily write all of your letters… now onto numbers!
- You like to help your little brother (sometimes) but if you are in the wrong mood you will argue with him until you are both blue in the face (“Yes!”, “No!”, “Yes!”, “No!”).
- Sometimes you need some time to yourself to unwind and get your energy back
- You still love to be outside. You like sliding and this winter we have started skiing – some moments are frustrating for both of us but I love the look on your face when you get down the hill by yourself. You especially love the “magic carpet” that takes you back up.
- You are a really good colorer and a surprisingly creative drawer – if you start drawing a car and it doesn’t look right, you call it a camel and keep going! You’re also holding your pencils and crayons properly lately… getting ready for preschool, maybe?
- You boss Emery around a lot, although he’s usually quick to respond to what you ask of him… he loves his big brother!
- You love playing on mommy and daddy’s “games” (tablets) – you like Angry Birds most of all but also the coloring games, puzzles, and car/monster truck apps.
- You are self-conscious sometimes. I’m not sure where that comes from but I am going to do my best every day to help you know how great you are just for being you.
Because you are great. You’re great when you are helping your brother put on his boots, great when you say out of the blue, “Does anyone want to hear a joke?”… I even think you’re great when our personalities are clashing (okay, sometimes that one is in hindsight). But I do think you’re great because I’m your mom and you’re my son and every moment between us, good or bad, makes our relationship stronger and special and ours.
I love you, sweet Oliver.
Now let’s talk party! We had your party yesterday because we thought more people would make it on a Sunday but a snowstorm sure ruined our plans! But that’s okay … we had some close friends and close family and enjoyed every minute of it in spite of the weather (and all the leftovers).
This year’s party was … Angry Birds!
The food table…
Brother of the birthday boy. Doesn’t he look so tall and slender in this picture? I swear he’s grown four inches since his birthday.
Daddy made a fun Angry Birds game to play at the party – an Oliver-sized slingshot that actually shot angry birds at boxes and piggies! Oliver loved this so much I think we’re going to have to find a place to set it up at home.
Emery was a pretty good shot too! All of the other kids tried too but I didn’t get good shots of them. Then there was cake!! Mmm… chocolate with praline filling and brown sugar buttercream. This one was really fun to make and Oliver thought it was pretty cool, which made every minute worth it.
When I asked Oliver at bedtime what he wished for when he blew out the candles, he said, “I wish that I love you”. Sweet melt-a-mommy’s-heart sentiment but he clearly doesn’t get the point of wishes! Present time! Oliver led this all himself, going from one to the next saying, “I want to open this present next!”. The girls helped a bit here and there. Emery tested out the new magnet board. Even though the crowd was smaller than expected, I think we all had a really fun time. Most importantly, Oliver said he had a lot of fun and really liked the party. And since that’s the only reason I do it … for them … that’s all the thanks I need.